Sexual Healing: Good Advice From A Bad Girl

This is not your mother's sex advice column. I'll tell you upfront that I’m kinky and my answers to your questions won’t be your standard, vanilla responses. So who am I? Just a kinky girl with an appetite for sex, a good deal of experience, and the desire to help others enjoy sex the way I do. Email me your sex and relationship questions. I can't respond to all of them, but I will post the question along with my response. Feel free to comment or add your own experience.

June 17, 2005

Quick Sex Tip of the Day - Toy Stores

The following is a list of good places to buy sex toys online

Toys in Babeland
Good Vibrations (very informative)
MyPleasure.com (great selection, also very informative)
JT Stockroom (great for BDSM toys)
Adam&Eve.com

June 15, 2005

Quick Sex Tip of the Day - the myth of the alphabet

Take it from a woman who has given head to other women (men, too, but we're talking cunnilingus at the moment), tracing the alphabet on your partner's clit ISN'T going to get her off.

First, trying to hit every letter is going to ruin your concentration. What you should be paying attention to is her reactions, not the building blocks of language. And secondly, the key for most women is repetitive stimulation, and that doesn't happen when you're going "A B C D ..." with your tongue.

June 13, 2005

Quick Sex Tip of the Day - Erotic Photography

Wondering where to get those erotic photos developed? Afraid they'll end up online, or get you arrested for their content? I have 2 words for you: Digital Camera.

A good digital camera doesn't cost any more than a high quality 35 mm, has the bonus of being able to plugged directly into your computer for easy transferring of images, and if you buy a photo printer with high quality photo paper you can make prints at home.

June 11, 2005

Female Squirting Orgasm - Not Just A Cocktail

A little note about the

Pretty Damn Good & Concise Description of Female Ejaculation

link on the sidebar:

First, the caveat to all of this is that in the end, not every woman is going to be able to ejaculate, so if you or your girlfriend have given it your all, tried everything suggested in the how-to manuals you've read, and it still isn't working for you, please, don't beat yourselves up over this. Not every sexual act is possible or appealing to everybody and that's just how it works sometimes.

Second, on a more practical level, no need to lay a towel, unless you really do mind sleeping on a slutpuddle.

I would add to this paragraph:


Find the G-Spot
Begin by stroking or licking her clit to get her aroused. Once she begins to get turned on, insert two fingers, palm side up, into her vagina. About an inch to two inches inside the vaginal entrance, you should feel a round, roughened area on the front wall. This is the G-spot. Stroke against this area using firm pressure. It should enlarge and begin to feel more solid. Try touching or licking her clit as you manipulate the G-spot. Follow her responses and pace yourself to prolong her period of arousal; the more time she’s aroused, the more juice is building up in there.

that you need to pay a lot of attention to her signals. Don't trust that you will feel her G-Spot with your fingers. The G-Spot is as unique to each woman as a snowflake, comes in varying sizes, and is not in the same precise location. Explore slowly and carefully and let her tell you when you've found the right spot. Verbal clues are important here.

Communication is key.

I'll be saying that a lot.

oh, yes,
the Squirting Orgasm Cocktail Recipe
Ingredients
1/4 oz Jose Cuervo Especial Gold Tequila**
1/4 oz Everclear
1/4 oz Jagermeister
1/4 oz Bacardi 151 Proof Rum
Mixing Instruction
Pour all ingredients, in equal parts, into a shot glass. Stir and serve.


UM ... I'm not sure if "squirting" is what I'd be doing after a few of those.


** no one should drink Cuervo EVER

June 10, 2005

Quick Sex Tip of the Day - is he gay?

Enjoying pegging (being fucked in the ass by a woman with a strap-on dildo) does not make a man gay, or even bi necessarily. It means he enjoys ass-play with women.

More broadly, a sexual act does not define one's orientation. Rather, it is defined by the people with whom one desires and chooses to engage in romantic and sexual activity.

June 09, 2005

Quick Sex Tip of the Day - vibrators

If you are having trouble getting your woman off, she doesn't come when you fuck her and oral isn't working either, there is nothing wrong with her, or you most likely. Just try a vibrator. You don't have to go for one of our premium friends The Hitachi Magic Wand
or its rechargeable cousin The Acuvibe

right away.

But why settle for less than the best?

Trust me, she'll thank you for it.