Double Her Pleasure

Speaking of two cocks... what can you tell us about DP?

That's a rather, um, open-ended* question, isn't it?

What do I know?

Let's start with the basics. Kids, if you've never heard of DP, aka Double Penetration ... this is when a woman is being simultaneously fucked in her pussy and her ass. The majority of people who know about DP think of it as two men fucking a woman in said configuration.

I've been DPed. Well, not by two men. I've had a cock in my ass with a toy in my pussy, and vice versa. I've had a toy in each hole. I've had a cock in my ass, and the very small fist of a woman in my pussy. I've had a guy fuck my ass while finger fucking me. I've had both my ass and pussy filled with ice cubes. But no 2 guys fucking me at once, although it's a fantasy.

Being that full is fun, and incredibly intense. Lots of lube is required. As much as for anal alone ... but much, much more. The woman needs to be extremely relaxed. You should realize that because the wall separating the vaginal and anal canals is so thin, if you are DPing a woman with another man, you will very likely be able to feel his cock as he thrusts in and out. Be very attentive to the woman, and be as gentle (or not) as she wants you to be.

If you're in a relationship, and interested in DP, I would suggest the cock and toy scenario before bringing another man or woman in to join you, unless that is something you already know you are comfortable with. Using a vibrating bullet or other vibrating toy as the 2nd insertable will be particularly fun for him.

I hope that answers your question. If you want something more specific ... let me know.




*Pun fully intended

Two Cocks Aren't Always Better Than One

While browsing the web I came across this page ... http://www.sextutor.com/double-cock.shtml. This has got to be a joke, right? There are guys out there with TWO penises??? I'd google it but imagine putting "two penises" into a search engine ... 7 million porn sites and very little actual information. Can you tell me anything there, just for curiosity's sake?

It's a joke.

Diphallia, the medical term for what you describe, is a congential birth defect with extremely low incidence in the population. It is usually accompanyed by other birth defects so severe as to result in miscarriage. If the baby is born, and makes it to puberty, either one of the cocks won't function, or they both won't.

Funny You Should Mention It ...

Hi!
I like reading the careful answers you give in your blog to readers' questions. I'm curious: What do you know about Instead cups? Someone recommended them to me to use when I have my period. Evidently they prevent the blood from getting out so you can have sex while bleeding. Do you know anyone who has tried these?
Thanks!

I'm not usually one to let a period stop me from getting my freak on. Not if I'm in a long term relationship ... To the extent that I wouldn't be in a long term relationship with someone who wasn't down for a bloody fuck (or for going down). I've been both the giver and receiver, and to me, there's almost nothing hotter than that level of intimacy.

But sometimes we're not in long term relationships, and the simple fact is that a LOT of women are super horny when they're on the rag, and it seems silly not to take advantage of that.

Recently, I was in a situation where a particular fantasy of mine had the potential of coming true. But my Aunt Flo is a bit finicky, and can be unpredictable within a certain amount of predictability, so I wasn't sure if she would visit this particular weekend. I was discussing this dilemma with a friend and she says "Oh, I just always use my diaphragm".

And I thought: "What a brilliant fucking idea! Why didn't I think of that one?"

Then it occurred to me: Because you don't use diaphragms because you grew up with the "use condoms or die" anti-AIDS message, and you've been a condom Nazi since you first started having sex.

Then I remembered Instead Cups, and was all set to use one if Aunt Flo arrived before I wanted her to. In the end, I didn't need to go this route. But it is one I will consider in the future.

I've talked to a couple of people who have used Instead cups during their period as a barrier for sex, and have heard mixed reviews. The consensus seems to be it does work, but if you are into using big toys, or fisting, during sex, the chance of dislodging it is high, and you'll end up spilling out what is collected inside. This is also possible with highly spirited fucking, or if your guy has a big cock.

My advice is ... go ahead and try it. It's not going to harm you, and I'm a big proponent of experimentation. But if you're considering it as a means to keep your partner from knowing you're having your period, you may as well just skip the fucking. It's deceptive, and anyone who needs to be tricked into fucking you isn't worth it in the long run. You'll be too worried about "exposure" to really enjoy it, anyhow.

Do the Douche?

Have just found your blog and I love it. My boyfriend and I have both discovered this year that we LURVE anal - giving and receiving. I have a strap-on which he enjoys very much, and I'm getting more and more into receiving anal, especially while I stimulate my clit. We also both quite enjoy oral anal stimulation. Thus far we've been preparing for this by having a thorough shower, but I'm wondering if a douche might be necessary? And if so, how exactly? I'm afraid I've never douched in my life. Also, can douching be good for a "shag on the rag"?

First – I applaud you and your experimentation, and willingness to please each other. You guys rock!

Now … I’m wondering why, if you’ve been enjoying anal play for months, suddenly the idea of douching seems so important? Showering beforehand seems to have done you well so far. Unless there’s a part of the story you haven’t shared …

Really, though, there is no need for anything beyond proper normal hygiene. Showering, and cleansing with soap, including a sudsy finger in the ass, should be enough. Contrary to what you might believe, there isn’t a lot of crap just hanging around inside your anus (unless you’re currently feeling the urge to “go” that is), so in general there isn’t enough bacteria that you’d get sick from rimming, or even a spirited anal tongue-fucking. If you are indeed worried, and want to douche, it seems pretty safe. Just use warm water. And follow the directions.

Now wait. Some people might stop here and say: “douche? don’t you mean do an enema?”

And no. Anal douching is different than an enema. You use something that looks basically like a turkey baster, but with a bigger ball and a thinner tube, like this. The water isn’t going to stay inside you the way it does with an enema. It’s more like quick rinsing.

Regarding enemas (you didn’t ask, but I’m going to address them). I don’t do them. I don’t think they are necessary for my enjoyment of anal sex. I figure, part of the reason I like being fucked in the ass, is because I’ve eroticized it as something “dirty”, and it is my ass, and we don’t shit roses. I’ve never had an extremely messy situation. There has been some santorum sure, but … like I said, it’s my ass. I sort of think it comes with the territory. Also, in general, I don’t have notice that I’m going to be assfucked. With my last long term male partner, I knew it was always a possibility, so I just took care to be as hygienic as possible, short of enema/douching. We just kept towels handy. And there’s no reason you can’t continue in the shower if you need to.

For some people, the possibility of a “mess” makes anal sex undesirable, and so for them, douching or an enema is a necessary component. If you know ahead of time that you are going to be engaging in ass-play, and the douching, or enema adds to the enjoyment for you, then go for it. But like anything, frequent enemas are not medically sound. There is a great discussion/debate at AnalSexYes.com.

NOTE: Enemas & anal douching do not prevent the spread of STDs and may in fact increase the risk so take precautions when engaging in anal play after an enema: condoms for penetration, gloves for hand play, dental dams like you'd use for safer oral-vaginal sex for rimming and analingus.

As I've said before: I always advocate a latex (or viable non-latex alternative) barrier for anal play, even if you're not worried about your partner's STD status, because while there may not be enough bacteria to make you sick to your stomach, there is enough to upset the delicate Ph balance of areas like the pussy ... and that's something we want to avoid.

As for vaginal douching being good for a “shag on the rag”.

Oh honey …. Hellllll no!

Repeat after me:

Vaginal Douching is bad, mmmkay.

The pussy is a delicate hothouse flower.

It’s silly, but true. It thrives in a particular way. There is a normal balance of bacteria, but they cancel each other out. Douching disrupts that balance and messes with your body’s natural cleaning mechanisms, which actually promotes infection, not decreases it. It is natural for you to notice a stronger aroma at certain times of the month, but that doesn’t mean you are unclean. The idea that you are dirty when bleeding, is just a left-over from the days when women were separated from the rest of the tribe during that part of their cycle. I, however, am of the “yay for bloody fucks!” school of thought. For me, that comes in the context of a fluid-bonded, long term relationship. I discuss this at length here

If you are healthy, and hygienic, you will still have times each month when you notice a different odor, and that is a natural part of your menstrual cycle. Unless the odor is truly offensive and you have other symptoms, like unusually textured or colored discharge, or pain/itching, there is nothing wrong with you and douching is only going to leave you more open to infection. Those are symptoms of some kind of infection (not necessarily an STD) and you should see a doctor for diagnosis. Douching will simply mask, and exacerbate, your symptoms.

Note to ANYONE considering douching, or requiring it of your partner: Please read the discussion of medical risks in this article: Douching: Perceived Benefits but Real Hazards by W. Steven Pray & Joshua J. Prey.

References:

The Great Enema Debate: Enemas and Anal Sex

Douching Linked to Vaginal Infections: Largest Study to Date Confirms Risks

Analingus: The Curious Lovers' Guide to Oral-Anal Contact