Let Him Be "The Tutor"

I happened to come across your blog page and I have a question for you. I am 18 and have had sex numerous times but I have never given a guy head. It's not that I don't want to I just haven't yet and now I shy away from it because I feel like I'll be bad and guys will expect more. I would really like to please my boyfriend and surprise him and give me a blow job but I'm kinda scared because I don't know what to do exactly. I was wondering if you could give me some personal tips or advice.

I think I would approach this a slightly different way. Surprises are nice and all, but giving head isn't a paint-by-numbers activity. I don't really have a technique, per se, other than having been trained into a relaxed gag-reflex which makes deep-throating easier. Mainly, I try to make adaptability the theme when it comes to giving head, to either gender. Everyone likes it a little different.

If I were you, I would wait until I was making out with him sometime, pick a good moment and say something like "I want to try something ... I've never felt comfortable enough with a guy to suck his cock before, but I do with you. I don't want to disappoint you though. Will you let me suck yours, and tell me what you like and want me to do while I do it?"

That specific language may be a little too much for you, but I think you get what I mean. A lot of guys like the idea of boldly going where no other guy has been before. I think this explains the stereotypical heterosexual male's fascination with lesbians. So let him know he's the first, be enthusiastic when you're blowing him, and let him guide you*

I really don't think you'll go wrong with that approach.

A few mostly universal things:
-Watch your teeth (some guys like teeth. In my experience, the majority do not)
-Ball licking/sucking is usually appreciated
-If you can't deep-throat and his cock is too long for you to take all the way in comfortably, use a hand, or both, on the base of his cock to supplement what your mouth cannot do
-making eye contact with him when his cock is in your mouth is really hot







*guide you verbally. A lot of guys like to hold your head and fuck your mouth. Some women like that, but many do not. I would reserve that level of cocksucking until I was a little more comfortable with the activity itself if I were you.