Detachable Penis

Ok, so I'm asking. So I have this strap on. See http://www.goodvibes.com/ItemList--search-strap-ons--srcin-1.html and look for the one called Johnny. The Silicon balls rub against my inner thighs and create these very painful boil type things. (I know, sorry, not sexy). Also, the leather harness would create small boils where the corners would rub in my groin area. I didn't know what was causing these painful blemishes and I always was careful to "sanitize" before and after. Then someone told me it was probably the material and the friction against my skin that may be extra sensitive. Well, shortly after, my "regular" mate, dumped me and I've been celibate for a few months and it all cleared up. Well, I don't want to stop using strap on's and my partners like the realistic looking/feeling ones. What do you suggest?

It sounds to me like the friend who told you your skin was sensitive to the materials and the friction had it just right. This should be even more apparent since the problem completely went away when you stopped using strap-ons and silicon dildos for several months.

If you insist on using strap-ons, I urge you to look into harnesses that are made out of something other than leather: fake leather, fabric, rubber - all of which may be less irritating to you than leather. It's also possible that if you fasten the harness tighter, you'll reduce the friction that seems to be rubbing your skin raw.

Now, the dong material issue. I think if your partners care anything about you and your comfort, they're going to want sex to be as pleasurable and consequence-free for you as it is for them. The long and short of it: if they like you, they should be willing to forego realistic looking dildos once you tell them of your problem. If they don't, and their preference is more important to them than your health/comfort - honey, fuck 'em. And I don't mean literally, either. Personally, I don't care for the realistic dongs. They tend to be floppy, and that's not something I want in my toys. I'm also mildly creeped-out by anything that looks like it was cut off of someone's body. Give me a day-glo cock any day of the week, but keep the detached penis-looking thing away from me. Still, I'm perfectly willing to negotiate on that if my partner has a mental or physical issue with the kind of toy I prefer. You should expect no less from your partners.